TNBuilder's Blog - page 9

We were talking today and she emphasized that she really wants to get together to in her words 'have sex' I really like that she is not calling it making love, because it indicates that she accepts it for what it is - SEX. The only problem is that with the Cancer treatments and a few other medical issues, it is currently off limits. My birthday is mid April and she wants us to get together for sex for my Birthday so that is something to look forward to.

The wife and her mom and I are headed out for a camping vacation in Florida for a few weeks. For the first week we will be sharing a room, so certainly no sex then. Following that, we will have a cabin for MIL and Wife and I will be in our camper. It should be a nice vacation, but The Wife revealed a disturbing fact to me a few nights ago - I do not think she meant to say what she said - Anyway .... In my efforts to improve our bedroom I have purchased a few new things, one is a box of suggestions that you randomly pull from and must do, they range from kissing to anal (I wounder how that will go over?) the other is a book called cookie sutra which is basically a condensed version of the KamaSutra but with the positions demonstrated by gingerbread cookies. Well, a few afternoons ago I was frantically searching for keys and left the book on the bed but put it away before we went to bed. Wife said she was disappointed as she was hoping to go thru the book with me so the next evening I made sure I was fairly rested and awake and left the book on the bed. She came to bed and we were talking and she said (this is where it gets interesting) she had made extra effort to be awake and had been sure not to drink wine since she sometimes does that to avoid sex - not those exact words, but that was the meaning - she went on to tease me a bit then said she was too tired but I could fuck her to get relief. Uh, NO, I do not want that kind of sex. That was Wednesday night and now it is Friday morning and I am frustrated and a bit pissed off. She is 'teasing' that when we are alone in the trailer on vacation, things may get kinky, but I have very little hope. I will update as possible.

Tuesday evening I was really tired and found myself falling asleep on the sofa so decided to tell the Wife that I am going to bed early sort of hoping that she might follow but she did not, instead staying up to watch the Olympics and the shit show that is the Russian figure skating. When we were talking the next day I pointed out that what she was watching was pointless and that I had hoped for her to follow me and she apologized but I did not put much weight in the apology. Wednesday we went to bed at our usual time after watching the late news. I was not expecting any sexual activity as it has been under a month and we have a house guest (we average every 6 weeks - sometimes longer. Well .... She starts playing with my dick and goes to suck me and, well, off to the races we go. She sucked on me for a while, I sucked on her tits and pussy for a bit and then we fucked I am not sure if it was a guilt fuck and sort of feel it may have been, and it was not the best sex we have had, but it is sex. How sad is that statement.

Our anniversary was this past weekend and, no surprise, no sex. She did promise that she would do a sexy dance for me again (even though she said she felt silly the last time) but somehow she seems too tired every evening. He mother is coming to stay with us for about 2 months starting tonight (I adore her mom) so I sort of assume that will mean 2 more months without sex. We will see, part of the time she is here will be a few weeks camping in Florida so perhaps when her mom is not sleeping in the camper with us there will be some opportunities. Oh, well.
The Ex is still fighting Cancer and a few other health issues but has expressed that if given the opportunity she would like to hook up again - that really is a mixed bag for me, as good as it is to fuck her, I truly wish she would find a partner to stay with and not rely on me as much as she does.

Well, last night (Thursday night) after my surgeon gave me permission to take off my brace, we went out for a nice dinner and cane back to the hotel to watch tv for a bit. I was worn out and fell asleep on the sofa so we went to bed early. The Wife came out of the bathroom and surprised me with a little bit of a dance as she slipped off her 'night shirt' I was surprised to find that she was wearing a new Teddy. We ended up playing for over an hour - she had what I believe to be 3 orgasms and she sucked on my dick for quite a while. Since my right arm is still not working quite right, the positions were a bit odd, but I fingered her while she used her vibrator and although it was not a comfortable position for me, I did manage to eat her for a while. We finished up with a good fuck (x2) where we both came.
All in all, a pretty good way to finish off the week. The big question now, is if this will be repeated on a regular basis more often than once every 4 - 6 weeks.
Time will tell.

I am headed back to Atlanta for my 6 week followup on the shoulder surgery and he is supposed to let me take the shoulder brace off at this point - I am tired of it - and hopefully that will make The Wife willing to have sex again but who knows. We had another 'talk' about the lack of activity and she agreed that it needs to change so I purchased a book and a few other things to try to spice it up and create reminders. She continues to 'Tease' the things that she will do, but as in the past finds a way to avoid them when the time comes. As much as I intended for January of 2022 to be the sort of jumping off point if things did not change, we have both had our medical issues over the past few months so I am trying to be understanding. That being said, we are almost past that point and she really will have no more excuses within the next few months.

The Wife has been saying that she wants me to move back from the recliner (needed due to shoulder surgery) so I have moved back for the past few nights. While I was in the recliner, she would get me set up with blankets so I did not get cold which I appreciate and then before she went to the bed, she would give me a nice kiss goodnight. As expected when i move back to the bed, the kisses went away. This is like 6 years ago when I was still sleeping in our upstairs room and she would always give me a good kiss before I went to bed but not when we were sleeping together. She admitted to me that it was because the kiss when we were together could lead to 'more'. Am I surprised? not at all. Still not sure where things will go this year, but we have needed each other this year due to surgeries and recovery. I am just tired!

We went out of town for the weekend and I slept in the bed instead of the sofa thinking that *maybe* there would be sex, but NOPE - NOTHING. she even sort of teased that she would model a new pair of boots I got her but she was too *tired* Oh, well. One cannot help but to hope. It was an overall nice weekend with family.

Well, we went out on New Years Eve to the theater and dinner and I was hoping that we would have end of year/new year sex at or around midnight. Since my shoulder surgery I have been sleeping in a recliner in the bedroom on Dr. orders but it is not real comfortable and he said as long as I refrain from rolling around and keep my arm brace on I can sleep in the bed so I figured I would give it a shot and hope for some sex as well. The Wife was/seemed happy that I was back in bed and cuddled up to me stroking my dick and then went to sleep. Oh well, it was almost 12:30 AM anyway. I did manage to sleep in the bed pretty well so will try again tonight.
Edit ... I went to the bedroom shortly after writing this to wake her up and we did end up having some fun, for whatever reason she did not want to fuck, but she did give ma a good BJ/HJ and I ate her for a few minutes. When it came time to go to bed, I tried to sleep in the bed, but my shoulder was too painful so I ended up in the recliner.

not a lot to say since I am typing with one hand. Had a pretty decent fuck the night before surgery (12/11) but nothing since then - no surprise - I fully expect it to be at least another month before anything else happens.